I remember her
I remember her very well, a woman
with a lack of restraint,
pacing around in anxiety, in agitation;
carrying a fear
of being abandoned by everyone,
carrying an emptiness, a black hole, within.
I remember her mercurial nature,
her lack of healthy boundaries with people,
her ambiguity about her goals and ideals,
her coquetries, her impulsivity,
all gnawing the fabric
of her simmering soul.
She called her days
living on a roller coaster.
Her troubled early life
nudged her to see things
through a black and white paradigm.
She struggled to tolerate
the grey shades, motley traits,
in human nature, in a single person.
I remember her pattern
of unstable relationships,
her idealising and hating the same person
within a short period,
her pushing away the people
she wants or needs in her life,
her lack of close friends,
her random encounters with strangers,
her spending sprees.
I remember her longing, desperation,
to fill her frightening emptiness
with an enduring healthy relationship.
But she did not know the art of weaving
of enduring relationships.
She had mastered the craft
of draining the patience, the energy,
of her family, and friends.
The tempests, within, drove her
to kitchen drawers,
cliffs, drugs, rooftops, alien streets.
I remember her distorted self- image,
her doubts, her guilt, her denials,
her streak of grandiosity;
her struggles to follow her treatments.
Yes, we did not let her wander in wilderness,
and we promised to ourselves:
we will help her to work
on her immediate and long term goals,
on regulating her emotions, on practicing
mindfulness, on nourishing
the healthy relationships, on finding a purpose to live,
on becoming a rudder for her turbulent ship.
(this a small attempt to demystify borderline/ emotionally unstable personality to raise awareness about this condition. This is a fictional account based on my encounter with hundreds of patients with this condition).
(Dr Javed Alam- a UK based Kashmiri poet and physician. He uses a pen name to separate his professional life from his literary work. He likes to write in the language of ordinary people, about their ordinary thoughts and about their ordinary insights. Dr Javed likes to use poetry to explore the philosophy of life, neurosciences and Kashmir. His work has been published in print and online literary journals as well as in anthologies in the UK, USA, India, Canada and Ireland. https://www.poeticnoesis.com/)
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